Staying Strong & Moving On: 5 Life Changing Lessons From Tony Robbins
If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. ~Tony Robbins
As I sit here writing this post, I keep returning to the same realization. Tony Robbins has been such a force of nature in my life that I cannot possibly articulate what he has done for me in the few moments that I have to write today.
So, I think that I’m going to take a couple of days to write this piece because it is too important to half ass.
No single person on this planet has taught me more about perseverance, determination and focus to succeed more so than Tony Robbins. I have been living by his principles of success for 21 years now. And, during the last 7-years his teachings have been a major source of strength for me as I reclaim my health after totally losing it to Lyme Disease.
The truth is, the journey has been incredibly difficult. And, each day, I have to make a decision to stay in a zone of certainty that I will get better and I will return to my life. I know that I have to stay in the realm of certainty because that is the only thing that will propel me forward — Tony taught me that.
Here’s how my relationship with Tony started…
When I was 16 my Mother sent me to a seminar series for teens on goal setting. Of course, I wasn’t exactly told what I was in for because let’s me honest, my 16 year old self would have been rolling her eyes and refusing to go.
At this point, now 21 years later, I’m so grateful that I was kept in the dark. Because going to that course was one of the biggest things that changed my life. And, it’s where I was introduced to Mr. Tony Robbins.
I don’t want to get you all excited or anything, Tony wasn’t actually there. But we were talking about how to Awaken the Giant Within — a practice that I have used ever since to accomplish every goal that I have ever had.
The principles of success that I learned from Tony quickly saturated my life, and what I learned simply came down to one word: action.
The path to success is to take massive, determined action. ~ Tony Robbins
Taking action has been the catalyst to every successful experience, endeavour and goal in my life. Without action, you simply cannot move forward, and you certainly cannot succeed.
When I lost my health 7-years ago, Tony’s teachings became even more important to me: they became my life line. On my worst days, I would sit for hours listening or watching Tony on Youtube. I needed constant reminders that if I wanted to move forward and heal, I needed to take action and to stay in a mindset of certainty.
Tony fueled my fire to keep moving forward, to keep searching for the cause of my illness, and to never give up.
It is your decisions, and not your conditions, that determine your destiny. ~Tony Robbins
I think that we are all searching for ways to remain focused and determined to arrive at our final destination of healing, happiness and fulfillment. So, I thought I would share with you the lessons that I’ve learned and that have helped me to stay on the road to recovery.
Here are the 5 biggest lessons that I’ve learned from Tony Robbins:
1. If you want to change your mood, change your state.
During moments of fear, worry, depression, sadness and concern, our physical posture changes. We start to droop and to cross our arms in front of our body, as if trying to hug the fear away. This physical posture then makes you feel even worse!
But you can change the way you feel (your state), simply by changing your physical posture.
Standing up tall, pulling your shoulders back, sticking your chest out and raising your chin so that your head is tilting slightly back puts your body into a confident stance. The new stance, which is cognitively associated with power and authority then changes your state from negative to positive.
On my worst days, when I was feeling extremely exhausted and worried about my health, I would use this technique. In fact, since I knew that posture affected my state of mind, I did every thing in my power to always get out of bed and get dressed. No matter what. At the very least, I moved to the couch. But throughout the day, I would stand up and assume a confident posture just to help myself fight against the fear and panic that was brewing inside me.
2. Success is not about positive thinking.
Success is seeing your situation as it is, and telling yourself the truth. You really need to be honest with yourself. Then, you need to see your situation as better than it is. You need to train yourself to be in a state of certainty that your present circumstance is better than it seems. That state of certainty then propels you forward into action.
3. Action is the key to success.
Taking action is the key to attaining success because action is the only thing that will ignite progress. And, progress or moving forward is the key to cultivating happiness. Your brain needs to know that you are accomplishing something and moving forward toward your desire or goal. If you remain stagnant, you prevent yourself from observing evidence of progress toward your goal — and your brain translates that lack of evidence as failure.
Of course, action is different for everyone. We all make different choices for ourselves. But, ultimately, the choices that you make will determine your future, so choose wisely.
4. Live with an attitude of gratitude.
Tony says, “when you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears”. And, I can’t agree more. I started a serious daily practice of gratitude this year, and I must say…it’s helped me so much.
Every day, on a couple scraps of paper, I write down one or two things that I’m grateful for, and I fold these pieces of paper and place them into my gratitude jar. Last week, I had to add a second jar because the first one is overflowing with gratitude. I’m looking forward to December 31st, when I get to shake out my jars and re-read all of the wonderful things that have happened this year.
The practice of keeping a gratitude jar has also given me a way of providing my brain with evidence that there are so many more wonderful things that happen — far more positive experiences than soul sucking negative ones.
It’s easier to see the evidence right there in front of you, rather than trying to remember that something lovely actually happened. During the dark times, the dark usually wins against the light. So, leave a paper trail to help you vanquish the darkness.
5. The past does not equal the future.
My present circumstance has nothing to do with my future experience. Things can change in an instant because I have the power to change my story. I know in my heart of heart that my future does not include chronic illness. In fact, I can see my future self clearly: she’s energetic, free, confident, loving, fun, present and grateful.
What has happened to me today does not influence who I am tomorrow.
Tony has helped me to wade through uncertainty, and I am truly grateful.
Who has helped you to stay on course? Who do you turn to for inspiration and elevation? Comment below.